Being the single gal in the not-so-single workplace
I like my job and enjoy doing what I do. However, I have found, from early on that I have to make a sacrifice for the long undergraduate degree at university, and the tough training on the job. My family and friends have all been wonderful in supporting me during these past years, and I feel guilty not being able to do the same when they are in need.
However, I have felt the need to move on in my life, but as Saya has commented in her previous posts, I think my future husband hasn’t been born yet. But it also could have been the fact that while I was engaged with my career, my ideal man decided he couldn’t wait and be engaged to someone else.
In the past 2-3 months, my colleagues have grown to know me more and now are asking more personal questions.
“Why aren’t you married?”
The dreaded question anyone could ask a single girl who is looking.
This has been asked by doctors, male and female, and by nurses, male and female.
I haven’t yet found a perfect answer to this question, but I try not to show that this saddens me nor do I try to be snappy in my answer.
But what can one answer?
a) I haven’t found him yet…(cue: sad violins)
b) I like being single (big lie)
c) Do you know of anyone? – this can only be asked to certain female colleagues I trust, but they come out with the funniest suggestions, like men who are NOT my type at all.
d) I am wedded to my career (reeks of visions of me being a cat lady)
Until I have my perfect answer, or even better until I actually find someone, I can smile and look mysterious.